How To Successfully Get Back With Your Ex After a Breakup
However or whatever you decide, just make sure you are continually remaining her how sexy and amazing she is and how much she means to you.
13. Don’t Stop Trying
Often when you get back together with an ex the first few weeks or months are like the honeymoon period all over again. If you have both taken time to work on yourselves and are both in a good place, you will be trying your best to make it work. This means you will be more attentive, affectionate, and engaged.
The problem is many people are like this for the early stages of the relationship, but then fall back into old habits. You have to stay focused and continue to work on yourself and the relationship. If things start getting hard you have to keep communicating. You can’t just shut down and go mute like you previously did. You also can’t be overly affectionate then turn cold once you think everything is going well.
A relationship is a constant work in progress and you have to be willing to put in the time to see the results.
Just Remember It Will Never Truly Be a New Beginning
Even if you follow all the tips above and manage to make your relationship work, it will truly be a new start When you break up with someone it impacts your psyche, especially if it was because of something you or your partner did that was wrong. No matter how hard you try, that baggage will always be there.
“It’s impossible to have a truly fresh start with someone you’ve already dated,” explained Dr. Chloe Carmichael, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of Dr. Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating. “It’s really important to recognize that this is a rekindling of an old relationship, not the start of a new one.”
If you split and took time away to work on yourself and look at your behaviors and made changes, you will be a different person. This is the type of energy you need to bring to your relationship so you are in a positive place to give it your all. While the relationship isn’t exactly new, as you have dated before, bringing a positive mindset means you can start fresh with more chance of things succeeding.
