9. Support their career goals

Support your partner’s career goals by always being an honest and encouraging voice. Cheer them up when they’ve had a rough day at work, help to iron their clothes for that job interview, and root them on when they’re filling out stack after stack of job applications. If your partner prefers a stay-at-home position, let them know that their work doesn’t go unnoticed.

10. Spa night, anyone?

Who doesn’t love going to the spa? Even better, who doesn’t love the thoughtfulness and care of getting pampered by their husband? Light candles, turn on some relaxing music (or a favorite television show, if the spa music is too cheesy, and treat your partner to a menu of relaxation: pedicure, manicure, foot massage, face masks, facial massage. This can be an especially welcomed surprise if you know that your partner has had a lot on their plate recently.

11. Share a lunch break

If one, or both of you works, schedule to share a lunch break together. It doesn’t matter if you plan fancy reservations at an elegant cafe or simply bolt through the drive-thru and chow down in the car. The time together will give you both something to look forward to.

12. Make a bucket list

Craft a bucket list together on a rainy day. This can be a literal bucket list, or a more specific one, such as all of the countries you hope to travel to together, the dishes you want to try cooking, or the goals you hope to achieve within your marriage. Keep your aspirations always in sight by sticking the list on the fridge.

13. Let your partner teach you something

Chances are, your partner knows something you don’t. This may be a skill such as cooking, sewing, or tai chi, but it could also be a subject matter, like Renaissance art or astronomy. This will foster rich time and conversations between the two of you, and will also let your partner know that you’re interested in their talents and abilities. Plus, you get to become an expert on a new subject!