I had a random roommate in the dorms my freshman year of college. We knew next to nothing about each other, except for the fact that we shared the same major. I’m a rather weird and quirky person, so I got lucky that she embraced me and we became best friends, but not every couple is as lucky. Odds are, you and your roommate won’t fall into a natural routine without a little work.

If you’re looking to get to know a prospective or random roommate, consider asking these questions:

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Noise Preferences

If you love blasting music while studying or taking a shower, it’s probably best to avoid someone who loves silence. Additionally, if you plan to have friends over or throw parties, you should check to see if that kind of noise is okay at night.

Pets

I know someone who was shocked to learn that her new roommate had a pet. Most people will disclose this information, but you don’t want to end up in the situation of my friend– allergic to cats and apparently living with one!

(Clothes) Sharing

This probably won’t make or break your search for a roommate, but it’s a good conversation to have after you move in. People who are used to sharing clothes with siblings or other friends may assume that this behavior is acceptable (I usually do). For people who prefer not to let others borrow their stuff– at least not immediately– this is disrespectful and can lead to problems early on. 

The same conversation should be had for any items you might wish to share. In an apartment this may include pots and pans, food, or hair products. While most people are accommodating, it’s better to ask first than inform your roommate later. 

Smoking/Drinking

Smokers typically live with other smokers, but it doesn’t hurt to ask if your potential roommate smokes occasionally and/or socially, especially if you have asthma or allergies.