My typical interactions with women looked like this:

1. I’d meet a girl and try to strike up a conversation with her. Inside I’d feel nervous and wouldn’t know what to say or do to win her over, so I’d just wing it.
2. She’d pick up on my awkward body language and think, “He’s out of his depth and I feel nothing (except maybe embarrassment) for him.”
3. Now, she might have entertained the rest of the conversation to be polite, but she’d clearly be sexually uninterested in me and she’d start showing it through her body language and short answers to my questions.
4. I’d pick up on her disinterest and start feeling even more nervous and less confident; which would become increasingly obvious through my desperate conversation and anxious gestures.

And the awkward exchange wound drag on until eventually one of three things happened:

1. The conversation would end and we’d never speak again;
2. I’d ask her out or she’d give her number, but then she’d always be busy and makes excuses, so we’d never actually go on a date; OR
3. She’d enjoy my company, but secretly wouldn’t think of me in ‘that way’ – so we’d stay friends indefinitely until I eventually realized that we’d never be more than friends. I’d never be her boyfriend nor her friend with benefits.

Does this sound like a familiar to you, by any chance?

I’m not surprised if it does. Most guys have been through this cycle at some point in their lives.

It took years before I figured out that being short is an immediate disadvantage when making a first impression with women. It’s like starting every new conversation on the back-foot.

To make matters worse, with each unsuccessful interaction I had with women, my confidence and sexual self-esteem took another beating. And I carried that insecurity and fear forward into the next exchange.

Over time, I grew increasingly determined to break this vicious cycle. So I spent years figuring out how to make women want to get to know me and date me.