Sometimes we have to be very specific with people in order to let them know that we are interested,” says DeAlto. Don’t be too coy. “We want to make sure that we are straightforward enough that our crush gets the point. If you’re simply starting a conversation, they may not understand.” She says to let them know that you would love to get together for a drink or dinner. Coffee can be perceived as platonic, so you want the invite to be for something after the sun goes down.

Try Calling or FaceTiming Her

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“Call her on the phone or FaceTime her,” says Elizabeth Overstreeth, Relationship Expert and Author. “Sometimes people may forget to respond to a text or start to respond and get distracted.” Women expect to be bombarded with texts if she doesn’t respond so calling her will catch her off guard – it’s a bold move.

Plus, unlike texts that she can read what you’ve said without responding, she might just be curious enough to pick up and hear what you have to say. But if she genuinely forgot to respond, she’ll appreciate you checking up on her. 

Only Follow Up Once

Following up once is completely reasonable (after 48 hours, of course). Sometimes we’re genuinely busy and not responding has nothing to do with their feelings for you. But you only get one follow-up.

If they haven’t responded for 48 hours and then ignore your follow-up, they’re not busy. They’re uninterested. “Still no reply? Time to move on. Ghosting is a part of our culture at this point, and while you could try to shake a response out of them, do you really need to?” says DeAlto.

Do you really want to talk to someone who has absolutely no interest in talking to you? We think not. “A lack of response is a response. If someone is interested they will respond. That doesn’t mean they won’t zombie back at some point, but your best bet right now is finding a new crush.”