Leave out “I would be” and switch it out for “I am” to help with visualization. For example, “I am kissing your body from your neck all the way down to your inner thighs” sounds more like it’s actually happening rather than “I would be kissing your body from your neck all the way down to your inner thighs.”

Once you’re no longer a stranger to phone sex, try role-playing or giving sexual instructions to one another like a sexual game of Twister to keep things exciting. Just like you would if you were having sex in person.

Continue To Flirt With Each Other

Sending a flirty text can be used to build suspense on the day that you decide to have phone sex. Receiving an unexpected text saying “I can’t wait to hear what you’re going to do to me later” will allow them to feel your excitement through the phone before it’s even begun. But it should also be used as a way to keep the spark alive, with or without phone sex. Because if you don’t, having phone sex will be hella awkward.

Always Have a Time Frame of How Long You’ll Go Without Seeing Each Other

Without an end date in mind where you can finally see each other again, the in-between stages become much harder than they need to be. Knowing how long you’ve got left until you’re reunited and that you’re only temporarily apart will give you more of an incentive to stick it out, especially in those times of cold feet where you find yourself asking whether a LDR is really what you want.

Ideally, if possible, you should aim to schedule a meet-up within three months. Any longer than this and all the reasons why you love them and decided to do a LDR in the first place that was so clearly imprinted in your brain could begin to fade.

Checking in with each other every three months max will remind you both of why it’s worthwhile. It’s also important to get your physical touch fix with the woman you love as phone sex and accidentally bumping shoulders with someone on the tube will only do so much.