Having sex with a friend is as risky as it gets. Crossing the line between friend and lover changes the entire dynamic of your relationship. It conjures up a whole set of problems, especially as emotions are usually stirred and the situation can turn into something more. You can become friends with benefits, or maybe even embark on a relationship. Or worse, one of you immediately regrets the decisions or catches feelings while the other wishes to forget it all. Things can get awkward real quick and your friendship will most likely never be the same again. Even if you manage to remain mates after the deed is done, your friendship will forever be different. 

Before embarking on a sexual relationship with a friend, you really need to consider all the possible outcomes and make sure you are ready for the consequences. More often than not it will end in tears and you will have some issues to work out with friend so there is no awkwardness. So before you knock back that extra beer and move in for the kill, here are some things to think about before having sex with a friend.

Platonic vs. Romantic Friendship

Before delving into the pros and cons, let’s take a look at the differences between a platonic friendship and a romantic one. Both are built on a foundation of trust and respect. There has to be a strong connection between you both that allows you to get to know each other on a deeper level. The major difference between the two friendships is the physical side of things. 

As Hello Relish puts it: “A romantic relationship is a close relationship to another person that involves deep friendship as well as physical intimacy and sex, and maybe even love. A platonic relationship is a relationship between friends, and while these relationships can be loving, they are not physically intimate.”