Big difference, right?

2. Build your life back up again

Being single is the opportunity to find someone you’ve never been with before. It’s not a reason to enjoy sitting at home and believing that you’ve been “burned” by your ex. You need to start doing things that improve your lifestyle, not hinder it.

That means not getting drunk with your guy friends in a poor attempt to forget the past. That’s temporary and you need a permanent solution.

So what are some things you should be doing?

• Hit the gym.
• Find a new hobby.
• Read a good book.
• Discover a new passion.
• Travel and experience the world the way you want to.
• Connect and talk with friends.
• Focus on your grooming habits, or even experiment with your hairstyle.
• Eat well and pay attention to your diet.
• Shop for new clothes, explore your fashion sense.

No matter what you do..

Remember, It’s ALL about you.

3. Putting in the time

Regardless of what you do to get over her, if you don’t take the time to grieve and get your anger out the way, you’re not going to move forward. It takes patience, and no matter how intolerable or frustrating waiting it out may seem, it is the real key to putting things in the past.

You may begin to wonder what you’re going to do now with all this free time. When you were in the relationship you would always find things to do, of course with her. But now that you’re single, your lifestyle habits have changed and the everyday routine that seemed so familiar has now been broken.

Aside from the break up activity tips mentioned above, you need to sit down and start writing out a letter. It can even be an e-mail should you prefer to hop on the computer.

Write down everything you’ve learned from the relationship, and what you’ve gained. Take a moment to understand how you grew as a better person, and apologize to her for what you believe you did wrong. Explain to her while the relationship had it’s positive moments, it was not meant to be.