Let me start by saying that I am not writing this to specifically take a crack at the Netflix hit TV show 13 Reasons Why. I believe that 13 Reasons Why was created with the best of intentions, and I appreciate anything that attempts to shine a light on issues like bullying, sexism, and suicide. These are prevalent and important issues that we should be having larger discussions about, and, partly because of shows like 13 Reasons Why, we are having more visible and productive conversations about mental health and bullying. 

And yet.

As someone who struggles with their mental health, I find 13 Reasons Why to be incredibly triggering. I walked away from watching the first season last year feeling worse rather than better, and I’m hesitant to finish the second season. Overall, I’m disappointed in the lack of discussion around mental health in the series, especially considering that the show centers around the aftermath of suicide. (To the show’s credit, they’ve changed up their format this season to include an opening that serves as a trigger warning and have provided resources for viewers.) 

If you’re like me and know this show isn’t for you, but you’re interested in the topics it covers, I have some recommendations for media to consume instead. These are things that address mental health issues or soothe me when I’m feeling some type of way, or they have been recommended to me by friends, peers, or resources. 

A note: I’m me and you’re you. I find the following things helpful and soothing, but they may not be for you. I’m also not a doctor, and these things are not a replacement for mental health treatment. If you are struggling with your mental health, please talk to your doctor or a trusted adult. 

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The National – “Demons”

Full disclosure: I stan the National hard, but there’s something so comforting in knowing you’re not the only one feeling a certain way and having certain thoughts. The National’s music seems to speak my intrusive thoughts to reality word for word, like “when I walk into a room I do not light it up,” or “I can’t get these thoughts out of me.”