On your approach make sure the girl has a clear understand of your intent right away, if she says something along the lines of “nice to meet you”, you’re being too friendly and you avoided getting to the point. You’ll want to be authentic, but it’s not an excuse for being nice; simply put it means keeping it real and doing what you want with no hidden motives. Always talk to her as a man to a woman, never the make conversation from a “friend” point of view, and finally make sure she knows what you expect.

Next, start by setting up the rhythm of your interaction, by doing so you need to decide where the energy levels are so she can match it. Keep in mind that with every interaction there is a buyer and seller moment, with one person attempting to qualify themselves to the other more. Let her try to sell and qualify herself to you; don’t become the person who does the opposite and works for her. Talk with these women as if you’ve already met them, embrace the feeling of being their boyfriend, and display the characteristics desired.

Your conversion shouldn’t be simple like when you’re talking to the guys, instead keep the topics coming with a random and rapid approach. Break out the funny and silliness for a moment to show her you’re real, then go back for a second to being down to earth and ask a boring question. By repeat this process over and over you’ll create spikes in her emotions, and you’ll keep her interested and having fun.

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When talking to her you need to be comfortable with the fact that you are taking up both her time and space. Remember she’s a woman and you are a man, keep it natural and the girls will love it. After you create a connection, you’ll need to make sure you can keep their attention and hold it. Women in bars are deeply emotionally drawn to the environment, and you’ll need to become the bigger stimulus than everything else going on.