It can be hard to tell whether she’s into you or not without literally saying the words “I’m crushing on you”, but it takes a certain type of woman to come out with it first. Luckily, there are some signs that can help you to figure it out. Perhaps she’s a work colleague or long-term friend that you’ve started crushing on, and want to know whether she’s likely to feel the same before you make a move without being embarrassed at work or risking your entire friendship.

When women have a crush, they tend to display similar traits, which Jeanne Sullivan Billeci, The Soul Mate Coach, Dating and Relationship Expert, is going to give us an insight into, so you can feel confident about your decision to come clean.

She’s 100% Herself Around You

“If she’s comfortable being completely herself with you, she thinks you’re worth the risk of revealing her secret single behavior,” says Billeci. “She might invite you to her open mic comedy set, or her spoken word performance. Maybe she’ll offer to read your tarot cards or declare a kink she’s into.” Basically, if she lets you into something others may see as embarrassing, there’s a good chance she’s crushing on you.

Most women who have a crush will begin to let their guard down as a hint. Some will do it willingly to see if you like them for who they really are, while others will do it without noticing as they feel so comfortable with you. Either way, it’s super flattering and you should feel honored. To let her know you’re into her too, Billeci recommends that you show genuine acceptance and reciprocate by flying your freak flag, this way she’ll feel safe and melt.

She’s Always Looking for an Excuse to Touch You

Billeci explains that if she’s interested, she’ll find little ways to touch you in flirty ways without being overtly sexual. If she really likes you, she’ll worry that sleeping with you right away, even if she wants to, will hurt your chances of a deeper connection.