The idea of a “nice guy” has changed over the years, from a phrase summarizing what every woman wants to a syndrome to what every man should avoid being. Some men even call it the recipe for consistently getting friend zoned. While there are some distinct differences in perception, but one thing is clear in the 21st century – you do not want to fall into the “Nice Guy Syndrome.”

The truth is, women today do not want a good or nice guy in the general sense of the word – they want a great guy.

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1. A Woman’s View

Women want a man who will take the lead and show them rather than having to exercise power over the situation. They do not like being involved in games, and too often they believe games are being played when the man is leading them to nowhere. The guy often does not know what he wants or what he wants to do, meaning he is plan-less and clueless, so will do whatever she wishes to do, making the situation worse.

Women can see a nice guy coming when he agrees and goes along with just about everything she says and wants to do. One result of the Nice Guy Syndrome is once he is involved with a woman, he gives up control of his own life to accommodate hers.

This is not an issue of the guy not having any self-respect, but more of being willing to compromise his own values and beliefs to be with the woman he wants. Thinking that being a nice guy is the right way to be, his hopes to continue being in a relationship are based on being agreeable and not doing anything to offend her. For the woman, this is the same as being b-o-r-i-n-g.

Once a woman realizes she is dating a member of the Nice Guy Syndrome fraternity, she has to evaluate exactly what she is going to do. On the one hand, she may feel insulted, since members of the fraternity are willing to take what they can get rather than having enough personal identity to not settle for just any woman.