“Instead, she’ll touch you in more casual, gentle ways, like a touch on your knee as she shares a secret. Or a touch on the shoulder when she passes you on the way to the bar or ladies’ room.” She might even playfully nudge your foot under the table or sit close and touch your hand or arm when talking with you.

If you’re not into someone, touching them is the last thing you want to do, right? So, if she’s constantly touching you, she’s probably crushing on you.

She’ll Show Her Playful Side

If she’s into you, she’ll look for ways to be playful with you. “This can show up as share her goofy side, from silly jokes to funny accents she does and favorite impressions,” says Billeci.

“She might sneak up on you and put her hands on your eyes while you’re waiting for her or tag you and run when you’re hiking—inviting you to chase her.” She wants you to know that she’s fun to be around and keep you coming back for more, and what better way to do that than being playful?

She’ll Allow Herself To Be Vulnerable With You

“When a woman feels safe enough to open up, that’s a really good sign,” explains Billeci. “She might share her bad day at the office, or an argument she had with a friend. Maybe she’ll share her most embarrassing moment, or something she learned from a mistake she made.” You can score points by just listening and showing empathy or judgment.

Unless she asks for advice, avoid trying to offer solutions. Women usually just want a sympathetic ear so they can vent and let go of what happened. Treating you like one of her girlfriends isn’t always a sign of being in the friendzone, unless she actually calls you “one of the girls” – that’s pretty hard to flip 180. But many women want to be friends first and foremost before becoming lovers as it helps them build trust and see longevity. Some of the best love stories have blossomed from a solid friendship.