Anyone would be in total pain since they choose to be in a relationship which doesn’t choose them. The person in question would be active, body, mind and soul to make things work, yet the partner remains a recluse to give back some amount of love. In the bargain, one of the partners would give their all to win the next, and would also go to the extent to convince their hearts that this is how it should be, especially when the other is non-committal. This is dangerous, because it leads to mental issues that have no room for compassion and ends up in bitter scenes later on. We have all been through such a phase, isn’t it? Here a few tips on how to choose who to love?

Not Being Loved Back:

Most of us have been through a stage when we contort ourselves into thinking what we want manifested. We pray and hope, and we even wish for that amazing love of being one with him or her, and for them to choose us. Deep within we hope that person would be ours and available only to us, for commitment and ready acceptance. However, when we aren’t chosen, we feel awful about ourselves. If that is the case, why then do we choose to dwell and live in such close-ended tangles, especially when are not seen, met, valued and loved?

Tips:

1. Don’t let yourself be taken for granted at any given point of time in a relationship. It has to be two way traffic, right from the time we start dating or courting the next. It is but natural that one would take a little more time and effort to be with the next, but that doesn’t mean that you do it all to make things work. There is a difference between wooing the one you love and being their slave. You don’t need to convince someone to be in a relationship with you, not when they really care two hoots.

2. Don’t cross the line, especially when the opposite party makes it very clear through words, actions and deeds that they aren’t looking for a commitment. Your fantasy may be to have them as a soulmate for life, but remember, sometimes the best of friends and soulmates too don’t make it to the dawn of the day, because of varied reasons. Hence, respect that and stop playing easy to convince!!