Many people think “if they love me, they’d want to change for me,” and this is where it gets personal because you’re thinking as if the only reason they still have whatever flaw you wish they didn’t is that they don’t love you enough. This isn’t true. Some flaws are easily changed, whereas some are deeply rooted in our personality. Don’t confuse a personality trait with their feelings for you. Plus, since we’re talking about accepting your partner’s flaws, they could turn around and say to you, “if you love me, you’d accept me for who I am.”

Try To Find Out the Reasons Behind Their Flaws

You’ll often discover that there are reasons behind people’s weaknesses, and it sure makes accepting them easier when you understand the reasons behind them. Maybe your partner is insecure and lacks self-confidence, but have you ever wondered why that may be? Perhaps their ex-partner cheated on them and left them with very little self-confidence.

When trying to find out the reasons behind your partner’s flaws, stay open-minded and ask questions, never assume.

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Let Go of the Idea That You Can Change Anyone Else But Yourself

Surrender to the idea of being able to change someone else, there’s nothing you can do about it unless they actually want to change themselves, anything else is pointless. Once you decide that you want to make a change, it takes consistent effort every day, which you can’t do for them.

By letting go of what’s out of your control, you can focus on the things in your life that you can control, like yourself. Redirect your energy to improve your own weaknesses. By working on being the best version of yourself, you won’t have the time or energy to notice the flaws in anyone else.

Understand That They May Not See Their Flaws as a Negative