Who do you want to be?

It’s a simple question.

So why do we struggle so much with the answer?

When we were kids, we would give these answers with firm resolution, assuming the question referred to a career choice. We wanted to be doctors or pop stars or, in my case, a dentist. Looking back on that answer now I can’t help but laugh seeing as the thought of looking into ANYONE’S mouth is much more daunting than the question itself. But when did this simple question change, causing us to question ourselves?

Figuring out who we want to be has always been a challenging feat because getting that far means knowing who you are to begin with. And knowing who you are comes from every life experience, each shaping you in its own way. 

While I am not 100% there yet on figuring out “me,” I am surely traveling towards that destination. My journey has had speed bumps, construction signs, and breathtaking views. 

In my time here on Earth, I have learned many valuable lessons, I hope that these will aid on your journey, too. Here are a few of my best tips for finding yourself, even when you’re feeling lost in life:

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3. Surround yourself with good people. 

No one can do everything alone. As a human, you need people who care to be there, who check in on you “just because,” and who are positive influences on your life. 

When seeking out friends, you can think of it like a mirror: look for traits that complement yours in others, and traits you wish to possess for yourself. Friends can help you build yourself up and become who you’re meant to be. One day, hopefully soon, you will see these new and old things come together reflecting back on you.

4. Learn to be selfish AND selfless. 

Sometimes you need to do things that just make YOU happy. Remember the things you used to do (maybe when you were a kid or a teen) that brought you contentment. Then do them, while also looking for new things that make you feel that same inner-peace.