Don’t get it twisted – apologizing is a good thing that mature, considerate, and sensitive humans do. Ask Amy Poehler. She’s all about apologizing. But we should only be apologizing when we’ve done something wrong or hurt someone. 

The problem is, a lot of us ladies have been socialized to apologize for parts of who we are because they don’t meet societal expectations. That is silly. Stop that. And don’t apologize for it. You are a magical, beautiful unicornperson and you don’t need to make anyone happy but yourself. 

Here are the top 10 things you should never apologize for:

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1. What you like

Know all the words to The Pinkprint but also love reading contemporary poetry? That’s awesome. Like watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians, but also volunteer at animal shelters on the weekends? That’s cool, too. Do you read YA novels when you’re taking a break from writing your thesis on quantum entanglement? You do you, boo! 

Don’t let people make you feel bad about the things that make you happy. We contain multitudes, which means that our interests will be varied and won’t always fall neatly into the boxes people put us in. 

2. How you dress

You’re not wearing it for them, so their opinion shouldn’t matter. (See: Reasons you should dress up every day.) That’s the facts, go print ’em.

3. Wearing too much make-up / wearing too little make-up

See above. Makeup is 100% your choice.

4. Your intelligence

Don’t apologize for knowing the important answers, for asking the important questions, for all the awesome skills you’ve honed and all the amazing ways you apply your brains and creativity to your life. If other people feel threatened by that, that’s not your problem; it’s theirs.